I had an intimate talk with my sister today...
She was relating to me some pressing concerns in her life, particularly on being in a relationship.
Well it goes without saying that she was actually aiming at getting some of my thoughts about it.
Honestly, although it feels good to know that my sister trusts me on her secrets and
is eager to hear what I had to say about some personal issues she is going through,
I kind of feel awkward talking about things which I haven't gone through myself.
I feel that I am not the best person to talk to in matters of the heart as of yet.
But I'm the only family she has in this utterly isolated island,
hence, I feel it is my duty as well to hear her out.
Bottom line is, I'm not sure whether or not I gave the best advise
but at some point we arrive at an understanding...
That all people need to be understood, and that in order for us to understand them, we need to put ourselves in their situation
That being in a relationship requires greater patience and understanding of the other
That to love means to give the other person a chance to fly and discover more about life and self
That societal norms should not dictate our decisions in life -- what matters most is that we love
That loving is extending God's love to other people. We don't stop loving when a relationship ends... We continue to love and even extend this love to other people we meet in the future.
So these were the things we have come to realize after that long talk.
Some others may not agree with us, but allow me to explain each one of them in my future blogs.
I don't remember telling you about one of my heroes in life, did I?
Well, she happens to be my dearest aunt who I consider my second mom.
My Aunt Lucy, more popularly known at home as "Nanay," is
fighting for her life right now.
She has cervical cancer and according to her doctors, her days are
This whole truth is just so hard to accept...
But I know there's a God who gives the final say, and I shall respect
whatever His decision will be.
Nay Lucy has always been there for me ever since.
She always had faith in me and had supported me every step of the way.
When I was little, my mom told me how I've always wanted to study in an
expensive school at home.
Knowing our situation at that time, my mom only smiled at me.
However, my Nay Lucy must have felt or even foreseen something in me
after that because according to mom, she just kept on pushing the idea of
sending me to Xavier University and even volunteered to sponsor my yearly
tuition -- so generous of her, I reckon.
So for five long years, my Nay Lucy supported me financially to school.
She must love me too much for she also brought heaps of presents for me
things I needed for school, new shoes, bags, and the like.
Every year, no fail, she supported me no matter what.
But towards the end of the fifth year, she began to suffer lung
she had to stop supporting me financially.
Allow me to tell you how my Nay gets to support me financially.
Well, she worked for Del Monte, a company that engages in processing,
manufacturing, and packing pineapple and tomato products.
At work, she would be looking closely at each pineapple, peeling off
areas left out by the machine.
Imagine doing this for at least eight hours a day... I wouldn't
And by the way, they had two "shifts" at work -- night and day.
Hence, there were weeks when you can't disturb her at day time because
she had to sleep.
All these for a couple of pesos just enough to spend for food and pay
power and water bills.
At some point I had to question how on earth did she save for my
Then I learned that she depended on an educational loan where the
company would deduct
some amount from her salary, paying the loan on installment basis.
One thing was clear to me -- she had to do overtime work in order to get
Despite hardship, I never heard any complaints from her.
Our happiness was and has always been her happiness.
She could have chosen to save and live a more comfortable life, but she
chose to sacrifice
not just for me but also for her other nieces and nephews depending on
Looking back, I realized that I will never become the person I am today
without my Nay.
She was and continues to be God's gift to me.
I am forever in her debt...
She is my hero.
Help me pray for her, Tuningfork.
May God ease her pains and give her the comfort she deserves.